Helen and I welcomed Ethan into the world on January 27th. After a few hours of labor and few minutes of crazy scream pushing, Ethan took his first breath of air. Yes, I know it’s been about 10 months. It’s been really busy with lots of changes to everything in the past few months. I have been writing this post since January!
As second time parents, the past few months has been equally emotional as the first time around, but it is definitely not in the same way as it was with Evelyn. The sharp edge of the anxiety and frustration has been tempered by our experience and lessons learned with Evelyn. We know (mostly) what to expect and how to deal/cope with the new changes with regards to welcoming a newborn. Not in the sense of us reading about and understanding what it’s like from a book, but really experiencing the process and dealing with things that no one can really write about or describe. That being said, it doesn’t mean that we were totally prepared and ready for the new arrival either. While every baby is different with their own little quirks and preferences, small variations were expected and accounted for. What really caught us off guard was the logistics of handling two kids. If you think handling one was hard, two is definitely not just twice the amount of work! Sure, individually, the amount of work is the same, but handling them both, or having their schedules and personalities collide, you end up doing SO much more work and getting a lot less sleep.
Here are a couple more thoughts and insights that we gathered over the past few months:
- The second is just as special as the first
- Boy or Girl, when you first pick them up and they look at you, it made no difference, you are done
- Boys spray…
- The first few months felt like a year… (So by my count, I feel like we have aged like 3 years since he was born)
- We thought that we couldn’t get any more tired than we did last time … we were wrong
- The fact that this post didn’t come out until ten months later is telling…
- We have forgotten a lot of things:
- The weird sounds that babies make
- How small they are, I thought Evelyn grew another two inches after we got back from the hospital cause we got accustomed to carrying a small little one for the two days we were gone
- Oh, the poop… the endless supply of poop…
- We are a little bit sad for Evelyn that it’s not just her any more
- She doesn’t mind…
Here are some pictures we have accumulated since then.
Ethan in the Bouncer
Ethan @ Evelyn’s 2nd BDay
Ethan in the Foonf
Ethan Dancing in His Chair
More pictures below! Enjoy!
Evelyn happily falling asleep
With the blink of an eye, the second week of parenthood is over.
This week was a bit more challenging as my vacation time was over and I had to get myself back to a regular schedule. It isn’t that bad, with the exception of having to stay awake. Since I was up well before the regular schedule wake time (due to a crying baby), it wasn’t hard to just stay up and get ready for work.
The hardest part comes when baby decides that it demands your attention right before you have to leave the house. Any schedule that you thought you had no longer exists, you drop everything to figure out and solve the baby’s problem first, and then continue on your ‘current’ tasks. Further complications to this cycle comes from the lack of continuous sleep that we had enjoyed prior to Evelyn’s arrival. Because of this, ‘current’ tasks tend to get forgotten after she is back soundly asleep… :-S
There were lots of lessons learned this week, some of them are:
- You can’t have both parents up to deal with the kid at all times, it’s not sustainable
- Diaper changing is an art form, more on this in a later post
- A live cam feed accessible via the internet is a little distracting, but comforting
- If you sit a lot and eat to stay awake, you will easily gain back pounds loss from the trials and tribulations of week 1
- Plan to leave the house an hour earlier the usual ‘Plan To Leave’ time. Chances are, you’ll still be late, but you just won’t be late as much…
- Next time I put together a nursery, I would strongly consider putting a sink in there…
To everyone out there, I apologize in advance for being late in the coming days, weeks, months, and years…
Helen and I welcomed Evelyn into the world on May 23rd, last week. After many many hours of labor and some crazy pushing, Evelyn took her first breath of air.
Apologies for the ‘late’ posting, I made it a point to stay away from the computer and the internet in general so I can concentrate on the new addition to the family during this first week. (I have been tweeting a little though. :$)
As first time parents, this week has been quite an emotional roller coaster. Bouncing from states of anxiety, frustration, triumph, and pride, it has been quite draining on both of us. It is further exacerbated by a screaming baby that is in an environment that is very different than what she has been accustomed to these past 9+ months. Like I was saying earlier, a baby crying at you while you are trying to soothe them is like trying to get something important done while getting yelled at constantly.
Here are a couple of thoughts and insights that I had over this past week:
- I now know exactly what my parents mean when they told me -“you’ll understand when you are a parent”
- That moment when she looks at you for the first time….and you’re done. That’s real
- I never thought I would be so glad to see pee and poo
- I have never been so tired in my life. I now know why parents sleep at like 9pm…
- I have never had to do so much laundry consecutively in a week
- Think of the worst and toughest project deadline you had to meet, all the pressure, the lack of sleep, take that, multiply that by 10, and repeat that feeling every few hours. That’s how bad it can get just in the first week
- This first week has felt like a month… but I would love more time with my lovely ladies
- Babies snore too
Here are some pictures that we have accumulated since then.